When you marry someone, you don’t expect things to get ugly; no one does. Unfortunately, no relationship can be smooth sailing. A little conflict is quite natural when two people start their journey together. But you need to develop an exit strategy if things get out of hand and become violent. Staying in a violent relationship can never be justified. You cannot be with your partner for the sake of the kids. Continue reading this article to learn practical tips to help you make the right decision when faced with a similar problem.
Type Of Violent Behavior: Society would have you believe that certain behavior is normal and even romantic. For example, when the husband is over-possessive of his wife, it can be seen as cute and romantic. But, some people want to monitor and control their spouse’s behavior for all the wrong reasons. These people are unnecessarily jealous and often violent. Here are some ways a partner can be violent in a relationship.
- Sexual Violence: When your partner forces himself on you and does not care for your consent, it is a form of sexual violence. Many women are raped on a daily basis by their husbands. They feel ashamed to speak about the issue to others. One may even experience bruises and bite marks all over the body if the partner is sexually violent.
- Verbal Violence: If your partner is sexually abusive, you might have some evidence to show others. But, a verbally abusive partner leaves next to no trace of their behavior. They appear to be sweet and loving on the outside but are extremely cruel with their spouses. Name-calling, body-shaming, humiliation, and manipulation are part of violent behaviors that one might exhibit.
- Emotional Violence: Similar to verbal violence, emotional violence has little to do with one’s physical self. The partners often threaten harm and isolate their victims from others. Isolating is an important part of inflicting pain, as the victims have no one to turn to. The victims typically depend on their partners for economic support, so they cannot leave their abusive partners, even if they’d like to.
Talk To Others: The day your partner shows signs of violence, you should talk to others. People often do not want to air their dirty laundry in public. But, telling a friend or a family member who has your back is needed. If you get into trouble, these people can come up and support your claims. If things go out of hand, contact a lawyer to get custody of your kids. Some expert lawyers have specializations in dealing with cases of family violence. Have a support group who knows about your current situation and can help you with the separation.
Couples Therapy: There are times when people act in the heat of the moment. For example, while arguing, a man might have slapped his wife unintentionally. Or the wife might have thrown a flower vase at the husband and missed it by inches. These violent incidents should be addressed in a couple’s therapy. The expert will be able to judge the situation better and advise accordingly.